When I was younger, I used to think that when I was 40 years old (ie: ancient) I would have everything all figured out. Well, I am on the other side of 40 and it is obvious that I am not quite there in the ‘got-it-all-figured-out’ category!!
There are, however, a few things that I have learned in my 40+ years and I thought I would share a few. I say ‘learned’ but that doesn’t mean ‘perfected’!☺ We are funny humans and knowing something and doing it are often very different things.
1. We choose our attitude
Each day, when we wake up, we get the opportunity to choose our attitude for the day. Attitude is often a struggle and it took me many years to realize that I am not a victim of my circumstances. I may not always choose my circumstances…but I can choose my attitude!! Some days we make the wrong choice and wallow and struggle instead of facing life’s challenges head on and seeking God’s guidance for our lives. Each day is a new opportunity to learn this important lesson.
2. What other people think is not as important as what God thinks
We can live our lives worried about what other people will think and it will never matter as much as what God thinks!! People will always have an opinion on how we should live our lives and there are as many opinions as there are people in this world. God shows us, through His Word, the way we should go and He wants our hearts to be right…not just our actions. You can do the right thing for the wrong reason…and the wrong thing for the right reason. God judges our intent…
“For the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.” – 1 Samuel 16:7
3. It’s not all about you
When we are younger, the world seems to revolve around our little lives. As we age, we begin to realize that we are not the center of the universe and that everything is not just about us! Relationships are important but need to be nurtured. You can’t have good friendships without being a good friend. Think of others…send a note, make a phone call, let someone know that you are thinking of them. It is a small thing that can mean so much to someone else!
4. You cannot change someone else’s life
We can give people all sorts of advice but until they see something for themselves, it isn’t going to have an impact on their lives. Sometimes people just aren’t ready to hear it and we will only anger/upset them by bringing it up. It took me a long time to realize that just because I had an opinion doesn’t mean I always have to express it. I still work on this one daily. I sometimes say things that I could have kept to myself…but I am learning to keep my own counsel far more than I used to! Baby steps….
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Change is hard!!!
I think one of the toughest things in life is for people to change. We develop ways of looking at things or doing things and we tend to stick with what we know and what is comfortable. Every now and then it is good to take stock of what we are doing and why. Often, things that worked in the past aren’t working well any longer and changes need to be made. Don’t be afraid to ‘tweak’ your approach!!
The bottom line is that nobody EVER has it all figured out! We will be a work-in-progress for as long as we are on this earth. It isn’t constructive to constantly beat ourselves up over poor choices and mistakes that we have made in our lives. When we know better…we do better and the only way to ‘know better’ is to make those mistakes and live through the consequences of our choices. Be encouraged that…
“Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ…” – Philippians 1:6